What is Borderline Personality really?

Some people are familiar with the term but don't know what it is. Some people have it and dont understand why they are feeling like this. Alot of therapists don't like to deal with people with Borderline, because its hard to treat. Yes it is hard to treat but only because it takes years. The term Borderline was started in mid 1900s. At that time, mental health conditions were classified as either Neurotic or Psychotic Conditions. Some patients didnt fit into either of these classifications and the term Borderline was used, which is somewhere in-between Neurotic and Psychotic Conditions.

People with Borderline are often depressed, get angry, can't find a stable companion, feel alone, feel suicidal or self-destructive, sometimes cut themselves, and sometimes hear voices. Not fun. How does this kind of thing happen? According to academic psychiatrists, people develop Borderline Personality when they never had a successful separation from Mom as a Toddler. Academics explain that kids feel unified with Mom through infancy, but as a Toddler start wandering off, saying No, and soon develops friends. When Mom and Dad are not dependable, intoxicated, violent, or just emotionally detached, separation becomes hard. Toddlers destined to become Borderline Personality feel like they want to go Mom for Safety but have fear trying to separate and become their own person. All this is hard to digest. The most important thing is that it is a problem of growth and development.

Treatment is helpful, Certain features like depression, impulse to cut, irritable mood, and hearing voices can be treated with medications. But psychotherapy and time can heal Borderline Personality. People with Borderline need to have a healthy relationship to heal. Thats what therapy is for. But it takes years of a healthy relationship psychotherapy to heal but it is a rocky road, to feel that the psychotherapist is safe for separation and to move on.

My feeling is having a healthy psychotherapy relationship is not only possible, but rewarding for both the psychotherapist and the client. The psychotherapist grows and the client grows, and the maturation is mutually beneficial. It takes years but patience, empathy and kindness are at the center of a healthy healing psychotherapeutic relationship.